Caring vs. Controlling

I believe that women are the worst candidate for this issue! We are born with the nurturing sense of taking care of others. This is normal, but there are limits. If you grew up taking care of a sibling; or maybe even a parent, it is so much harder for you to deal with this issue. Nurturing becomes a norm for you in any relationship. You seem to get satisfaction from helping others. In life, you are always trying to “fix” people. Now, helping others is not a bad thing… but remember that “You Cannot Change People”. Unfortunately, some people do not want to better themselves or make a change in their life. They simply “Do Not Want Your Help”. Sometimes, this makes your relationship even worse! They begin to resent you. They may start thinking that you are “Looking Down” on them. So, if you have someone in your life that is making poor decisions or living a lifestyle that is unpleasing to God. First, call them out on it. Let them know that you do not appreciate their actions. Second, set limits with them, so you do not follow in their footsteps. Lastly, you may have to step away from the relationship until they make better choices. Unfortunately, sometimes, they may never want to change. Most importantly, know that their outcome is not your responsibility. Give it to God! No worry in the world is going to change the situation or them either! Just like the expression says… “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make a horse drink”. God gives all of us the gift of “Free Choice”. God just tries to guide and protect us the best way that He can (with the 10 Commandments), but He does not have “Control” over our every move. Now, the next time you feel yourself getting too involved in another person’s concerns, STOP and say a little prayer. Ask God to take care of your friend or loved one. Little by little, the worry will stop. Let God take control over the situation. Give all of your “Anger and Worry” to Him.